How many of us have faced this criticism before - You're called a  Disneyland Dad who doesn't really participate in the 'real' raising of your child by the child's custodial mother. What should we think about this? Are we all 'Disneyland Dads' who only look to have 'good times' with our child, without a care for discipline or accountability in our child's actions? Or in hopes to alleviate guilt over divorce and avoid other child rearing responsibilities with our child? Or, are we fathers who take our limited visitation accesses to create memorable experiences with our children in attempts to maintain a meaningful relationship with them, including maintaining discipline, moral turpitude and basic child learning experiences - not out of guilt, but out of love?

Let's be clear that not all vacations, or memorable experiences with our children involve taking a trip to Disneyland, and are not opportunities, as vindictive mothers would say, used to excuse discipline, morals or structure in the child's life, or necessarily attempts to sway a child's like or dislike of a parent.  These activities can be as simple as going to a movie, fishing, camping, going to a sports game, or even just hanging out with dad. Inevitably these activities, due to the child's exhuberance over the activity that created a bond with the father, whether simple or grand, get the father labeled as a 'Disneyland Dad' by a vindictive and jealous mother.